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Never reached out before but I could really use opinions of others. Kind of long but please bear with me. I was working for a company for about 6 months that was about 40 minutes away from home. This job offered PTO every pay period (weekly), all federal holidays off and paid, Dental and Health insurance paid for. I left because one person in my department was very toxic. Felt like we were working against each other versus together. So i was complaining about anything and everything to leave. A friend reached out to me at the time saying her job that was not even 10 minutes away from my house, was hiring. So i just kind of jumped on the opportunity. However, i got a pay cut, only 4 holidays off, no health insurance, and no PTO until being at the company for a year. The last few weeks at the new job I am starting to think I am not a good fit for the position. I love everyone i work with but the training isn't going well. My boss kind of wants you to figure it out on your own. So when you mess up or it's not done how he likes, you get yelled at. I dread going to work everyday. I've never been in this job position in my life. Yesterday my old company reached out to me. The girl that was in the department finally left and the department is better than its ever been. They offered me to come back if i wanted too. I am really throwing the idea around of going back. What would you do in this situation? I am worried my friend will be upset with me. but i just don't think i am what the current company needs. Thank you for your advice in advance!  

Answer 1

Go back! It will be so much better without the Toxic person there. I think you will be so much happier!  

Answer 2

Go back!  

Answer 3

At the end of the day, your friend is a friend, nothing more. This is going to sound selfish but you have to put your well-being and financials first. Be honest with your friend and talk to her. Good luck.  

Answer 4

Always put your friends feelings when making a decision - jk! Thank her and say as much as you’ve enjoyed the opportunity. we go to work to make as much money (inc great benefits) as possible in the best environment. No need to explain about the current situation just that things have improved on your old job  

Answer 5

Good luck with your choice xxx

Answer 6

Go back. Sounds like your mental health will be better at the older job.  

Answer 7

GO BACK! YOU CANT WAIT 1 YEAR FOR INSURANCE

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@han40209 they don’t offer insurance at all  I don’t get any type of leave for a year.  

Answer 8

Go back! That was the only thing making you dislike it. She is now gone.  

Answer 9

Go back to your old job.  

Answer 10

A true friend will understand. Sounds like the old job is a way better opportunity for you

Answer 11

Go back to your home! Do what’s best for you!  

Answer 12

Go back

Answer 13

Go back it’s not worth dreading going to work everyday.  

Answer 14

Go back! If she is your friend, she will understand.  

Answer 15

Go where you are most happy and you get the most benefits!  

Answer 16

Take it! If she’s your friend, she’ll be by your side every step of the way.  

Answer 17

Go back, hands down. Your friend would have to understand the benefits of the other place over her current.  

Answer 18

Better to admit that you appreciate the new job taking you on, but don't feel it fits and go back to the old one where you were happy except for one thing than to try and ride it out.  

Answer 19

Definitely go back

Answer 20

Go back!  

Answer 21

Go back! I left a job I liked for similar reasons and would go back if that person left in a heart beat. Well maybe not because I’m really loving my new one, but if I didn’t I totally would.  

Answer 22

Go back if she is really your friend she will understand

Answer 23

Take the job back! Better pay and benefits

Answer 24

They must have valued you to call you asking you to come back. I would take up the company on their offer. Be honest with the company you are with now. Make sure you give notice. Don’t just leave.  

Answer 25

I would definitely take the job back, maybe ask for a small pay increase, since obviously they want you? If the major reason you left was that person and now she is gone, well, what's stopping you from going back?  

Answer 26

Go Back!  

Answer 27

Go back!  

Answer 28

Go back ! If she’s a true friend she will understand

Answer 29

Go back. If your friend is a good friend she should understand and support your decision.  

Answer 30

Go back.  

Answer 31

Go back to the old job. Who cares about the friend. I’m sure they were doing a good thing but it was not a good job for you.  

Answer 32

Go back for sure. Your friend will support your decision and if they don't, they weren't a very good friend in the first place. Old job = more financial benefits and more importantly a happier you!  

Answer 33

Go Back

Answer 34

Ultimately, you have to look out for yourself. You left because of a toxic work environment which has now changed, and they have graciously extended an invitation back to you. Take it! Why should you make yourself unhappy in a work situation that clearly does not benefit you? I would check in with your friend and communicate clearly and honestly about your reasons for leaving so she does not take it personally, and then depart.  

Answer 35

I would go back.  

Answer 36

Go back

Answer 37

Go where you will be happiest. If she really is your friend, she will be happy for you too.  

Answer 38

You have to do what's best for you. If she's your friend, she'll understand. I would go back!  

Answer 39

GO BACK! Tell your friend the night before, then tell your current employer the next am. Be honest with the current company. tell them you dont feel like it's a good fit for you & that your previous employer offered you a great opportunity you cant pass up.  

Answer 40

A true friend will want what’s best for you and it they’re upset about your decision. get a new friend and dump that one because that is toxic!  

Answer 41

Go back! Sounds like everything is falling into place for you and you wouldn't want to regret not going back!  

Answer 42

Go back. Do what is best for you financially. If she’s a true friend she’ll understand.  

Answer 43

Go back

Answer 44

Go back !  

Answer 45

Go back!  

Answer 46

Go back

Answer 47

Definitely go back to the first job. In addition to all the reasons you said, it will let your friend off the hook for bringing you into the new situation.  

Answer 48

Go back

Answer 49

Go back

Answer 50

Go back

Answer 51

It’s YOUR one and only life. Do what YOU want and what’s best for you.  

Answer 52

You need to do what you feel is right for you no matter what happens your friend should understand. Plus being at a job that you like should place value over any other job that doesn’t make you feel good being there.  

Answer 53

Go back! It seems like it’s meant to be—your friend will understand that you are doing what’s best for you. Just explain that you think someone else would fill the role in a more efficient manner than you are. Stay strong! ♥︎

Answer 54

Go back

Answer 55

Go back

Answer 56

You should definitely go back! It sounds like you're unhappy where you are at now, and the old place will welcome you back happily. Now that the toxic person is gone, it should be a breeze. However, you should get coffee with someone you know at the old place and see if anythings changed for the better or worse. Hope you find your fit!  

Answer 57

Go back! You want to be happy and your friend should understand.  

Answer 58

Go back

Answer 59

Do you! What is going to make you happy? What is better for you and your family? You should want all the paid time off to help you throughout the year. The new job is taking a huge step backwards. Blessings to you! You know what’s best, use your gut!  

Answer 60

Go back

Answer 61

Go back!  

Answer 62

Go back!  

Answer 63

Go back!  

Answer 64

GO! I had a friend talk me into coming to work with her. It was not a good fit. Then, I learned she was gossiping about me all the time. I ended up HATING it and her. GO NOW!  

Answer 65

Do it But remember you sometimes need thick skin no matter where you work. Learn to strengthen your verbal communication with fellow employees and don’t personalize everything. This will help you get through the next 30 years; I did!  

Answer 66

I would go back. A healthy work environment is gold. I've been in a toxic (literally and figuratively) way longer than I should have been because I liked what I did, but it seriously impaired my health. I will never suffer for a paycheck again. It's different to decide to jump for the unknown and not be sure. You KNOW what its like and the biggest obstacle isnt even an issue any longer.  

Answer 67

Go back ! If you explain it to your friend she should be okay with it, if not, is she really your friend ?  

Answer 68

Go back.  

Answer 69

Go back! Make sure you mend fences with friend too, but go back

Answer 70

I would go back, no doubt about it.  

Answer 71

Go back. for sure

Answer 72

I would do what benefits you the most

Answer 73

Go back!  

Answer 74

It sounds like your previous job was a better place to be and now that the toxic person is gone I would definitely go back. If your friend is a true friend then they will understand that you have to do what is best for you.  

Answer 75

Go back, your friend doesn't pay your bills. You can find new friends if she doesn't understand.  

Answer 76

Honesty is best, especially between friends and doing what's best for YOU trumps doing something to please someone else - go back and enjoy your life, you only get one! Xoxo

Answer 77

GO BACK

Answer 78

Never be without insurance if you don’t have to! Go back!  

Answer 79

I left the company I worked at for 20 years for 5 years and went back 3 years ago. Was a great move for me.  

Answer 80

At the end of the day do what makes YOU happy. Good luck!  

Answer 81

Go back. Take the commute in stride, you’ve already done it before. The previous employer has better benefits so the total pay package is better.  

Answer 82

Go back to your previous job

Answer 83

Go back to your other job. Your mental sanity and financial health is more important and a good friend will understand that if the job is not a good fit for you. Everything is not good for everyone.  

Answer 84

Go back.  

Answer 85

Do what’s best for you, not your friend

Answer 86

Peace out. Go back to the old job!  

Answer 87

Go back

Answer 88

Go back, the work place that was toxic no longer is and the new work place that was supposed to be good is toxic now. No reason to stay there.  

Answer 89

Girl, I would go back to the old position and company. Let your friend know that although you really appreciate all she did to get you that job, you realize that it’s not the right fit for you and that your old position was and the company wants you back. If she is a true friend she’ll understand.  

Answer 90

Go back!