Question

So I just recently got the awful news that my grandma just passed away. I’ve only been to a few wakes and funerals. Are we all supposed to wear black ? Babies and children? I’m just trying to be respectful but I honestly don’t have any black baby clothes. I feel bad for even thinking about this.  

Answer 1

I am so sorry for your loss. I wouldn't worry about the kids wearing black. As long as they're dressed nicely, it worn't be an issue. Same goes for you. As long as you avoid bright colors and loud patterns, you'll be fine.  

Answer 2

I bring my babies to funerals and wakes. I’ve found that some funeral homes have a children’s space. We always wear darker colors. But don’t feel like you need to go out and buy something. I’m sorry for your loss.  

Answer 3

Don't worry about the kids, just dress up and they will bring cheer to the family. Sorry for your loss  

Answer 4

Anything casual really nowadays . Not holy pants or hooker clothes . dress pants and a nice shirt . And as long as the kids are dressed in clean clothes they are all good

Answer 5

Exactly what they've said. Dress the kids respectfully but black is not necessary for children. Dont stress over the kiddos. I'm so sorry for your family's loss. I hope your memories bring peace.  

Answer 6

Both of my grandmas just passed away recently, so I understand the hard time you are going through. I wore black and grays, my girls did wear black or navy tones. Many others at the wake and funeral were simply wearing nice clothes and not necessarily a dark color. A colleague recently passed away and her family specifically requested that everyone wear purple because it was her favorite color. And a friend passed and he always wore plaid shirts so his family requested that everyone wear plaid shirts to his memorial service. Maybe reach out to others in your family to see what everyone will be wearing. So sorry again for your loss. ❤️

Answer 7

Depends on the family —- I have been at wakes where everyone wore the favorite color of the one who passed or white. You baby should be in dark colors, personally I would Just get a sitter. Babies and toddlers are hard to have at funerals

Answer 8

I believe that babies remind us of joy and life and the next generation at funerals. Little boys with their dress shirts yanked out of their dress pants included.  

Answer 9

You dont have to wear black. But I'd still be looking nice. I always bring the kids, and they wear khakis and sweater, or nice dress.  

Answer 10

So sorry for your loss. Black not necessary. My grandma passed away in December and I didn’t have much to pick from and ended up buying a super cute dress at Old Navy, one of those jersey dresses you can wear anytime. It was perfect. We took my son to a wake once and he wore a polo shirt and nicer pants, not black.  

Answer 11

I'm so sorry for your loss. In general, I usually wear black or more muted colors (dark blue, tan, etc), but it's definitely not a requirement. Some people go to the wake right after work, so wear whatever. Kids can also wear most anything, but I usually put them in something a little more fancy.  

Answer 12

Sorry about your grandma. No one expects babies to dress in black, assuming you bring her. You don’t have to do black yourself, just dress respectably, I wore gray and purple to my dad’s services. All depends on what you have.  

Answer 13

Wear her favorite color

Answer 14

It doesn't matter what the kids wear. Just something nice. Definitely don't go out and buy them something. So sorry for your loss.  

Answer 15

Thank you all so much! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Answer 16

I’m so sorry for your loss! Unfortunately my kids have been to several funerals, two over the holidays. My baby girl wore a pink and gray outfit to one and a dark blue sweater dress with a big pink heart on it. My older boys wore their Christmas outfits you can see in my profile picture. I think any color goes for kids, as long as it’s dressy. For myself I’ve worn black with white or floral detailing. Nothing flashy. My husband wore a black suit with white shirt, he was a pall bearer, otherwise would have worn a pullover.