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Happy Mother’s Day!  With talk about the state opening (maybe ‍♀️) are you allowing your kids to see grandparents?Happy Mother’s Day! With talk about the state opening (maybe ‍♀️) are you allowing your kids to see grandparents? If so, how, especially with toddlers who don’t understand social distancing/won’t really wear a mask?  
Happy Mother’s Day!  With talk about the state opening (maybe ‍♀️) are you allowing your kid

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+45 votes
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Yep! Mother in law is healthy and it's her choice. She is coming over. My mom lives out of state with my brother and sister and they are all getting together today as well.  
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@zosima35553 I love your response and usage of the word “choice”  Happy Mother’s Day!  
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@dude Thanks Nikki! Freedom of choice is very important to me! Happy mothers day to you as well!  
+45 votes
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No Not worth it  
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@wootan2 I agree, we’re waiting a few more weeks to get together!  
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@thistle absolutely I can’t put my parents at risk like that.  
by (10.2k points)
@wootan2 my mother in law is 95 and her sister is 92 and in lockdown at her assisted living facility, we usually get together for Mother’s Day, but not this year.  
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@wootan2 haven’t seen my grandson since February! Thank goodness for FaceTime!  
by (3.1k points)
@thistle yes my mom is really down bc of not being together. It’s been terrible. She lives for my kids.  
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@wootan2 better to wait .  
+48 votes
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Yes. With masks. But mine are not toddlers.  
+42 votes
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Yes, socially distant with masks
+22 votes
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No, only outdoors with masks from safe distance to wave and drop off a gift.  
+50 votes
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We are 10 feet away - no hugs
+39 votes
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Yes, allowing, no masks, no distancing.  
+40 votes
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No, because my littles don’t understand social distancing and it will be heartbreaking for all. Otherwise we’d be driving an hour to grandmas
+38 votes
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We have done porch visits, appropriate distance and a lot of caution. My parents still wear masks though.  
+25 votes
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We are on memorial day weekend with no masks or distancing. It was discussed between both ny husband and I and my parents before coming to our decision.  
+21 votes
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Yes. we’re having brunch at home with my mother in law however she is also our childcare as my husband and I both work.  
+25 votes
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Thanks all so far we haven’t seen anyone, for those of u that said no, when do u plan to start?  
+12 votes
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The Dr. Ezike lady said during the Gov's press conference the other day that it wasn't advised and she wasn't doing it--it's a bummer. My excuse is that my 91-year-old in-laws are in TX! It does seem hard. maybe at the end of June when they loosen up on restaurants, they will do the same with grandparents.  
+34 votes
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From my 3rd floor balcony we have a visit lol
+33 votes
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Yes, I feel comfortable doing so because she’s living alone and has been isolating like we have.  
+45 votes
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I think it depends on how old they are, their comfort level, everyone’s understanding of how the virus works, how good both parties have been with quarantine, and decide what parameters will be used (masks, gloves, etc). *edited to add that we have had my parents come over.  
+48 votes
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We aren’t getting together today because of the weather, but they’ve come over and sat on the deck away from us. My 18 month old went up to them a few times and laid her head on their laps. She’s kinda understanding that they can’t pick her up right now. Heartbreaking, but hopefully we can all feel a little safer soon.  
+24 votes
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I have started seeing stories on the grown and flown where parents were sheltering for 9 weeks and had maybe one or two exchanges at a pharmacy drive thru or a food drop off by a relative and contacted covid. I think it’s risky to not social distance around the elderly
+24 votes
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We’ve been seeing my parents and my father in law. All have quarantined in the beginning and only the husbands have grocery shopped. It’s a decision we all came to and that we’re comfortable with. Each family has to come to their own decision and comfort level.  
+39 votes
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We saw my mom today and will see my in laws later this week. No mask, no distancing.  
+37 votes
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No, and it sucks. We have started to do driveway get togetherness twice since the weather has cooperated, but we still stay apart
+38 votes
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We are not. We did stop by to drop off a gift. She stayed on her porch and we were on the sidewalk. While she is healthy and so are we her husband and my BIL (who still lives at home) are both still working outside the home. So for the safety of everyone we’re keeping distance. My MIL, my husband, and I all fall in the high risk group.  
+4 votes
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No. My spouse is an essential worker and my father is high risk.  
+37 votes
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I will post as a grandmother of a 4 year old. I’m also 53, and although the virus does not discriminate, I’m not in that age group that has been advised to be more careful. My son has shared custody with my granddaughter’s mother. He lives with me. Court orders still stand. Both families have been advised to be super careful and maintain good communication. We have seen her throughout this pandemic. We’re being really cautious.  
+5 votes
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I just went to my parents yesterday with my 3 year old. No masks or distancing. They have been at their other home for the last 2 months in Missouri, with way less cases then Illinois and very rural. My mom had been to the store 4 times in all that time. And I have been doing only pick up orders for groceries and very on top of hand washing. I felt awkward about it but I needed my mom yesterday. My dad and I didn’t hug just rubbed elbows, but of course my mom hugged me. And did a small hug for my son. We ate lunch inside and just wiped up the area where we were eating. I wipes down my phone so she could look at pictures for my he last few months. I had already been in there house while they were gone to water her plants so in one sense I never thought about disinfecting anything. They aren’t high risk I’d say but I feel like we have both been quarantined enough.  
+43 votes
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Thanks everyone for all your input! So far we’ve been holding off and still plan to, needed some reassurance that that was still a good call  
+34 votes
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Our parents watch the kids while we work and have been doing so even before the pandemic. Continuing to see them as usual.  
+25 votes
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My mom has come over once a week to watch my girls while I am still working from home. She keeps her distance. But it was the only way I could get work done. It was a personal choice that not everyone may agree with.  
+39 votes
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No we are not seeing grandparents. My Mom is a nurse so who knows what she's been exposed to and my Dad is immunocompromised. I'm stunned to see how many people are still getting together with people & not social distancing. And we wonder why our cases keep climbing and people keep getting sick.  
by (2.6k points)
@newish Minella exactly. It’s reprehensible to me how selfish some people are being.  
+16 votes
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My children’s grandparents are in their late 50’s/early 60’s. We didn’t see each other the first month of quarantine. All of us are at home and have been healthy. Since the end of @flourish we have done outside visits only. No hugging. I bring some outside toys, we go on a walk. It’s a way for us to see each other but also social distance. Our kids are doing really well at understanding they can’t touch grandma and grandpa. If mine or my husbands parents were out in the workforce right now it would be a different story. Every family is different right now. Do what works for your own but don’t get too relaxed and stop being careful  
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@gant7 thanks I’m not worried about being too relaxed lol I’m literally still disinfecting all my groceries and only doing instacart (we have baby too and I’m basically a germaphobe to begin with lol) mainly wanting to make sure I’m not overreacting by still keeping my kids from grandparents right now (they’re too little to understand )
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@yearround my kids are 1 and 3. Obviously the 1 year old can’t understand but we do a good job at giving him distractions so he doesn’t get upset. My 3 year old just knows that right now we only blow kisses, give air hugs, and wave and grandma and grandpa. I wasn’t sure it would work at first but it’s going well! We try and see them once a week as long as the weather is good and everyone feels well ♥️
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@gant7 that’s great that it works for your 3 year old, so far I don’t think it will go over great with our 2 year old  
by (4.6k points)
@yearround hopefully the circumstances change soon ♥️ it’s hard not to see family.  
by (2.8k points)
@gant7 totally hoping they change ASAP!  
+4 votes
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It’s definitely a case by case basis. My husband is exposed to covid daily at work so he has been living in a rv and just now moved him back into the basement yesterday. Not sure if we will keep it that way but both of ours mental health was getting bad. (Leave it up to my speech delayed 2 year old to have an epiphany & learn to talk so my husband felt like he missed it) we have had my mom come over a few times when the weather was warm to do homework with my 3rd grader outside. Both are masked and keep their distance. My mom is a nurse at cdh so she has learned all about how to avoid spread so I trust her. My in laws of course found this out and came over last weekend for about 10 min with masks and stayed on the other side of the yard. They are high risk and I am terrified of our germs hurting them. They want to do it again this week but I’m not sure how I feel. If you want a cute craft to do with your little ones I sent this to my grandparents from my kids. Will post in comments below  
+31 votes
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We are seeing one grandma. usually when we can sit on the patio. she will come over today. No hugs and Social Distance and we have all been following strick stay home orders exect one who has to work.  
+34 votes
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No grandparents yet, our parents are all over 70. Hopefully in June  they also live in Indiana and Michigan, different rules per each state. But I have a chronic illness and both sides parents have underlying medical issues. I'm not going to be the one to get them sick. We FaceTime a lot. Our 3 yr old would cry (and so would probably my mother) if they saw each other and couldn't hug
by (1.3k points)
@flourish @dropforge Clary honestly curious, why June? Because the governor is lifting the shelter in place and deems it safe?  
+8 votes
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If my Ma hadn't been flying last week, we'd be seeing her. But, this isn't because of COVID. we do this any time family has been on a plane. Kids have been to my sisters and to my MILs. We have a home business, my MIL has been retired for 20+yrs, sister also has her own business. Not doing it anymore. Life is too short to live in fear.  
+28 votes
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We (mainly me) invited my parents over yesterday. My father isn't doing well (mentally) and he's been talking about wanting to be shot (he would never act on it, I think) he's in pain daily (his back) My mom is a little worried. So I broke down and had them over. My mom said this visit changed dad and he was SUPER excited. and is in an overall better mood. But other than that we keep our distance, and don't go anywhere if we don't have to.  
+23 votes
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No indoor visits. We did have my parents over for an hour last week, but only outside, and my 3 year old kept his distance cause we talked to him about it ahead of time. Also they can’t during the find my 15 month old was napping so just saw her for a bit after she woke up and I had her in the stroller outside.  
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@percolator Knight you have to come to my home and parent my boys lol! 3 year old listened AMazing! I am speechless .  
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@photosensitive haha! Trust me he’s no angel. But we watch the news a lot and talk about what’s going so he seems to get it. He’ll sometimes say “Mommy, put on CNN so we can see what’s going on with the coronavirus. ” He got a little close to my mom a couple of times but for the most part he did well.  
+49 votes
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We've not been getting together with my parents. We have been video chatting almost every day. I was nervous about getting together and trying to social distance since my little guy is only two years old. We did finally experiment with grandma and grandpa saying hi through the window, and he was totally fine! He was delighted to see them and acted as if nothing was weird at all (I, on the other hand, was a puddle). Yesterday we stopped by my parents' house for the very first time. We stayed about 10 feet away in the backyard, and they stayed on their patio and wore masks. Again, little guy was totally fine. We did keep the visit very brief, so that might have helped. Long story short, we have been very, very cautious, too, and don't intend to change that any time soon. I totally understand why you're second guessing yourself (I felt the exact same way last weekend), but I keep reminding myself that I have a duty to my family to do everything I can to keep us safe as well as a duty to our community to honor the stay-at-home orders.  
+40 votes
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No. Unfortunately both of our parents live in MI. My MIL has leukemia and started her second round of chemo last week because the leukemia returned. My daughter is in the high risk category as well. So for the safety of both of them, we have chosen to stay home. Breaks my heart because with all of our kids being out of school, this would’ve been an ideal time to go for a visit.  
+16 votes
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No. I just can’t risk it.  
+14 votes
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We have seen grandparents outside only and at "safe" distances. My mom lives alone, and the isolation is very hard on her. My MIL and FIL are good about no hugs and keeping their distance (even though my MIL cries about wanting to hug my kids). Everyone has been super careful about limiting trips to grocery stores and contact with other people, and we felt that at some point the mental health of our parents is also a factor to take into consideration.  
+32 votes
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We’ve seen my in-laws and we’re planning a trip to TN to see my parents. If we’re all healthy we don’t see a problem in it. We all need it. My parents have missed so much, a birthday, 8th grade promotion, and other milestones. My kids are losing their social skills. My son is afraid to ride his bike in our neighborhood out of fear of others posting it on our fb page. He’s also missed playing baseball. My daughter is becoming more needy and emotional. They’ll be visiting their family and not living in fear.  
+4 votes
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Yes, with no masks and no distancing. We have a toddler. We chose to see each other.  
+15 votes
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Wow, just wow. Some of what I’m reading on this thread is very disturbing and the reason why this virus will continue to spread and why this whole thing will drag on and on. Wear a mask, social distance, and follow CDC guidelines. If you don’t you could literally kill someone.  
+4 votes
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We did yesterday just for Mother’s Day. The three adults kept their distance from each other. My toddler was able to hug and snuggle Mimi. We have been working from home and only leaving to go shopping once every week. Mimi has not left her house at all. We thought we could risk it for an hour visit w/ social distancing in place.  
+31 votes
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Nope, both my husband and I are essential workers. My mother in law has a lot of contact with her daughter who is a nurse so we keep our distance so we don’t increase our risks even more. My husband has already had a scare and had to be tested plus several of his coworkers have tested positive. We take this very seriously and not seeing any family.  
+38 votes
by (1.5k points)
My parents are part of the vulnerable population , so for now, and the most we will do is visit their patio with us outside and them inside.  
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