Question

What is the MAX you can $pend before consulting your partner?  

Answer 1

Depends on what i'm spending it on. A $20 breakfast is a lot different than a $20 prostitute. lol

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Not speaking from experience, but I heard from a friend that you shouldn’t visit a $20 prostitute even if you have permission.  

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@iconostasis23 for sure not before breakfast.  

Answer 2

No set amount, but I usually give a head's up for anything more than $20-30.  

Answer 3

We have never set a number but most “wants” we talk about it even if it is $5. Not to see if it is too much money or we can afford it but to see if we agree that it is a really want and worth the price.  

Answer 4

For personal spending we have allocated amounts each month that we can spend without consulting one another. For shared spending it’s anything above $50 that needs a consult first.  

Answer 5

I stay single for that reason

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(I have no idea if the reference fits, just was too perfect to leave it hanging. )
https://youtu.be/Dxgi1nOvcs4

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If your partner makes more than you, they might have more to share with you, just a thought ;)

Answer 6

Whatever I want , we budget spending money . all my primary income goes into our accounts. My budgeted “pocket money” and anything made on a side hustle is “my” money that’s the only money I deserve to spend and is in my own account. It’s been this way since we’ve been debt free ( beside mortgage ) in 2014. Been married 11 years and have never had disagreements on spending.  

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@bobsledding very similar for me. Very stress free

Answer 7

1000$ here

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@fervor84 why is the figure $1, 000?  

Answer 8

Well that depends if she finds out about my secret bank account.  $1800 strong and I'm still walking around like I'm broke. .  

Answer 9

Single here. I consult no one  

Answer 10

Maybe around $600-800. Maybe.  

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@dross maybe?  

Answer 11

No limit. We have separate finances.  

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@communicative can I ask why it is seperate?  

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@sinotibetan74 We’re independent people who are in a relationship. We met in our 40s, don’t have children. I wouldn’t expect to have any say in how he spends his disposable income. And also wouldn’t expect him to have any say in how spend mine. I pose the question back - why would you expect a couple to have joint finances?  

Answer 12

I don’t know @toniatonic, how much can you spend until you ask me?  But in all honesty, we keep separate finances because I don’t think that’s a question for anyone else to decide. Obviously, large joint purchases (anything requiring both of our incomes to qualify) are decided together. Beyond that, what’s mine is mine and what he wants to spend his money on is totally up to him. I wouldn’t have married him, and I hope he feels the same, if I thought he was going to be a financial burden in my life. I wanted to marry a partner, not someone I needed to ask permission for things.  

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You don't ask for permission? J/k Not having kids makes this totally doable. If we had them. No idea.  

Answer 13

I'd say around $50 but really with almost anything that is a more expensive "want" we talk about it first.  

Answer 14

About $100

Answer 15

We keep a joint checking for our bills +a 10% buffer that accumulates every month. We discuss large purchases out of that account, but otherwise we keep our own personal accounts as well so we don’t run into these issues.  

Answer 16

Out of courtesy, we consult over $150 for a single item.  

Answer 17

Wife doesn't question me, I don't question her. but we both don't spend carelessly either. She prefers to save her money, I invest mine. I don't tell her what to do with her money though I've advised her to invest.  

Answer 18

$1. We are on a spending freeze. Dont be fuckin up my shit yo! We had a nice period of time when things were relaxed. It's time to get ready for the new normal. My husband is in this group, I wont embarrass him too much but things are about to get real for many Americans. This is our time to position ourselves well and to capitalize, if at all possible.  

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@browne995 agreed  

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@sinotibetan74 lol I hate to be a spending "nazzi" (reference to the soup nazzi from Seinfeld, dont get too hot about it) but I'm serious! I have already threatened to cut up his cards, I'd like to see him challenge that. I manage the finances, and have since we have gone in the FI direction. I'm "soup kitchen, ramen, beans and potatoes" ready to not fuck it up now.  

Answer 19

As of 2:30, 6. 98 apparently.  

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@lacielacing love this  

Answer 20

$20, We usually talk about everything. Not really a control thing, we just do

Answer 21

I CAN spend any amount. However, if it's over a $100, we'll usually discuss it.  

Answer 22

$20ish. We do a budget together 2x per month so We will both bring up more expensive things we want / need.