I love that he loves to pick out gifts for you. I wonder, in his family of orgin do they do pricey gifts for Christmas and birthdays? My mom LOVES to give gifts, it is very special to her to mark an occasion and pick something out personally. But we were broke so SMALL things. My husband's family was broke too but the norm was expensive gifts. So we've had to change traditions to meet our budget but still honor the gift giving traditions for our families. Now MY husband, he has FANTASTIC QUALITIES but gift giving is not one of them, lol. So I pick out something small for Christmas to open for me/ "from him" and for Mother's Day we pick out yard flowers together and birthdays either I get something I'd like for myself and we talk about that's my present, or we go out to eat or on a date and that's the gift. I like to make it easy on him bc then there's no resentment on either side. I don't agree with completely cutting out gifts during debt repayment but I do believe in cutting the budget wayyyyy dow <3