First, then statements worked for us. First we’ll change your diaper, then we go outside & blow bubbles, or whatever activity is next. Also empathy really worked with my middle child. Things like, oh I know you would like to stay outside & play, I wish we could stay outside all day too, but we have to change your diaper. Like the more ridiculous I was with the empathy the better it worked. She’s 8 now, & it still works wonders. She just wants to feel heard. as we all do! Racing also worked for clothes. Saying, ok do you think you can beat my timer? It’s set to 20 seconds, and then count to 20. We do this with my youngest & she gets so excited to win! Also with clothes, for some reason she never wanted to get dressed in her room. They would all come down & have breakfast & then get dressed in the living room. Now they get dressed in their bedrooms, but for a few years it was downstairs. Whatever works!