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Anyone have this issue?  My husband asked me the other day.Anyone have this issue? My husband asked me the other day. which soup I wanted for lunch. I said I would figure out what to eat in a bit. he said oh I was just helping you with your diet. unless that was seasonal.  
Anyone have this issue?  My husband asked me the other day.which soup I wanted for lunch.I said I wo

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I’m confused. you wrote husband, but I’m certain you either meant “ex” or “late”  j/k - good for you for letting him live
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@carmel thank you
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On no he did not!  
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@fennelly Soo did.  
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Sometimes husband's say things they shouldn't. You're doing this for you.  
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And you’re not dieting. You, like the rest of us, are making a lifestyle change
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Agree. You are doing this for you. Be strong. We’re here.  
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@cate84 thank you  
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Politely request that the snide remarks end.  
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"Is your sleeping on the couch seasonal, cuz that can start NOW? "
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@gracia good one!  
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@outturn lots of practice at being a smart-alec at my house. I'm Irish and hubby is Scottish! LOL!  
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@gracia I get that
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Maybe he meant soup was seasonal! ‍♂️  
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@kerikeriann “just helping you with your diet. Unless that was just seasonal”. His comment was not about the soup.  
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I’ve heard if you poison your husband during this pandemic there will be no autopsy and he will have simply died from Coronavirus. I mean, in case his jackass comments aren’t just seasonal.  
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Nice that he was supporting you! But also  
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Meanwhile my husband had seriously offered to get me a milkshake 3 days in a row. Sigh.  
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Mine is totally unsupportive. When I ask why he says because I’ll just gain it back again.  
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@midway Zimmer Benedict that is so rude, don’t let him put you down, luckily my husband has joined as well and we support each other and I love the virtual workshops.  
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@acker350 I ignore him. I’m doing it for me.  
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@midway Zimmer Benedict I think it sad you don’t have his support. Xx
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@acker350 me too.  
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Tell him the couch is seasonal. And it's that season! I cant tell what my husband is. I mention I'm doing ww. He just says "again? " . Though he never complains on what I make. And if he's making breakfast for the family he asks exactly how much of everything he can use on mine so it doesn't destroy my points.  
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Obviously he wasn't thinking with his penis, with that remark he surely ain't getting any.  Stay the course ! You're a bada**  
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@cordova nope
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Mine only "got" it when I started wearing his T shirts. Why, he'd ask. Cuz mine don't fit. Aha moment .  
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Sometimes people have problems when we take control of our lives and change for ourselves. Keep at it for yourself  
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Thank you guys! So so much. I was so Down. And still bit. But. really thank you for Being there for me.  
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Sometimes change is scary for them also. Two things to ALWAYS keep in mind is forgiveness and gratefulness. You need both for yourself when you mess up(forg), and when you only loose . 2 or not satisfied with your body remember to be grateful for the loss or what your body enables you to do. For others when they insult you, accidentally or on purpose, because being mad, sad or ticked just drives emotional eating. And even if our loved ones seem to sabotage our dietary efforts we have to forgive and find the things to be grateful for in them. Off course first reaction feelings are real, but never let them stick around and become resentment.  
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Just keep on your plan. You lose more weight and he will let you do what you want.  
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My husband rolls his eyes every time I measured something  
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@midi3 wow- is he having trouble seeing his brain? Because that’s what I would be asking. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to know how much you’re eating. Measuring is so important- especially in the US where we are conditioned to see large portions as “normal”
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@overexert he was like I can't believe you are measuring wine, just pour it. It would be very dangerous if I just poured it.  
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Nope. My husband might occasionally question if something is in my points, but says "whatever you do, it's working ".  
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My husband is super supportive! He will ask if something is within my points and such because he’s genuinely trying to help keep me on track.  
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Wow. personally I’m petty af- and that would be the only way I’m responding to his questions for the next week. “Can you bring me tp” No sorry- seasonal “What did you make for dinner? ” It’s your season to make it Flowers, and an apology- literally no reason to be a dick
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@overexert love your response I would agree I would be using that qoute too lol
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Yep! I say to him” I didn’t ask for your help. Worry about your own body and mind your business! Actually I yelled it and he never did it again . well not that I could see or hear
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Lord helpem' they mean well. My father is big on "you sure you want to eat that"? And "you don't need that". His concern is genuine but his methods. well they are . genuinely backhand worthy
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Ugh! My husband, too! But I'll also get the glance and the head shake.  
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Yeah. I have learned best to leave spouses out of it. That's been my experience
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In fact, now my husband is telling people how much weight I have lost!  
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@crosseye400 my husband did that once, I don't really wanting everyone knowing - he said because he is proud. I get that and appricate him but I didn't /don't want my numbers advertised. Just me  have a great day keep up the good work
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@tini6 I don't mind him telling someone how much I lost because I'm proud of that.  
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It sounds like he was probably just trying to pick a fight, it's the quarantine/isolation, it's getting everyone all snarky.  
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Years ago I went to a weight loss program. At the intake briefing the doctor told us to expect support for the first 2/3 and then sabotage.  
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My husband always says where can you eat. I told him I can eat anywhere. I just have to make the right choice. I have lost 55 pounds. He doesn’t want me to find it again. Lol
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@basal88170 that's awsome
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@basal88170 my husband will say can you eat here if not let's go somewhere that you can eat!  
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Well I would say keep that close. Does he think he's a funnyman. My husband often puts his foot in his mouth. I know it smarts but I would just remember what you want. We got you  
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Love it.  
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Please help me to understand why you just said that to me. That simple statement puts the ownness on him. No arguments. And just look at him and wait. He may get defensive. Remain calm. Tell him it was hurtful. Move forward. I have found “help me to understand. . “ a great tool.  
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Is he often rude and dismissive of you?  
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@original1365 I think it’s just the backhanded. Stuff that gets to me.  
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@fao99937 don't minimize things that hurt you. Talk to him about it and make sure he understands how hurtful his comments are. No one deserves that.  
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He did say that if I got on the treadmill for 20 minutes then he would. Lol why would it matter if I do or not?  
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@fao99937 get on the treadmill anyway- you deserve to look and feel like you’re out of his league. This isn’t about him, it’s about you. YOU deserve to be happy- without pain (emotional OR physical) YOU deserve to be happy and healthy. Every rude comment is just a hurdle- you keep running and jump over his attitude.  
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Has the ambulance arrived yet?  Just ignore it
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My husband kinda joke about it at first then after I showed him i was serious 3 months later & 35 pounds lost he understand I'm serious he is on board now & will casually ask do you have enough points for that or have you worked out today?  
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I'm sorry. Sometimes I have to deal with comments like that too. My husband is supportive, but he doesn't understand how hard it is. He cuts out sweets for a week and loses 8 lbs that he doesn't even need to lose  Just yesterday he was beings supportive and telling me "think how much better you'll feel working out with 15 lbs gone". It annoyed the crap out of me and I snapped back. So sometimes I think they are being supportive and we are overly sensitive about the situation.  
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@infusible1682 I think it’s hard for us because when they try being supportive, we know men are visual creatures. Or we feel maybe they’re questioning whether we’re sticking to it or feel they’re being doubtful about how serious we are about losing the weight. I think everyone starts off with the right mind set- but they lose steam when they feel doubted- and we all want it SO badly in the beginning because we’ve all hit this “point” where we can’t stand ourselves. So to have someone ask how your diet is going when you’re hungry and frustrated with yourself, your body, it’s disheartening. We should all have self compassion
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Stephanie, yes! You are so right!  
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I had a fiancee who did that. Ignore!  
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Quarantine will make spouse murder charges rise  I keep saying this  
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@haste Lewis Leese well- I think with a comment like that- quarantine or no quarantine, his chances of getting hurt just went up 100%
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Yes, something would be thrown at my husbands head but he would also be expecting it  
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@haste Lewis Leese couldn’t find “throwing pans” in the activity tracker  
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Such dummies
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Passive - Agressive behavior?  
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My husband does this to me. He somehow always manages to delay when I eat until late at night and then comments how I shouldn't be eating so later ‍♀️ Last time I did it I handed him my food and told him to stuff his face  
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No, my husband is very supportive. I’m only 3lbs from goal. trying to keep my head above water during this crazy time. the only thing I feel I have control over is my eating
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