Question

Weird problem here.  So I lost 35 pounds still have 70 more to go.Weird problem here. So I lost 35 pounds still have 70 more to go. When I lay on my back my rib cage isn't covered with my extra layer of fat. I am grossed out. I don't like this feeling. I feel thinner and I think my brain doesn't like it. I like it. Anyone have this weird feeling too?  

Answer 1

Many of us have under lying , hidden from ourselves, CONFLICTING resistances and bewildering responses to our new bodies. Different sides of our brain actually struggle with each other. "Yes I will. No I won't. why isn't anyone noticing . I'll just grab this extra _____, and make up for it tomorrow. It isn't coming off fast enough .. it isn't coming off where I WANT it to . when I was younger and thinner, at this new weight, my body looked so different. darn it all, I've gotten down to a particular weight and my body ought to LOOK like it did, the last time I weighed this . what's this hanging skin about? " . and on and on and on with our personal and usually critical scrutinizing assessment of ourselves. We like THIS. We hate THAT. It comes with change and we often obsess. It's energy consuming and USELESS. There are more changes ahead and sometimes it takes our brains longer to get used to our progress. /// one glass of water at a time / / / one mile at a time / / / patience and kindness to yourself. There are more changes ahead. We'll get used to it.  

Comments

@swept “we’ll get used to it” so true. So helpful. So simple. ❤️

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@swept I am trying to get use to it. I love losing weight love the way I feel. I can get up faster. I love that

Answer 2

No, when I was able to start seeing my collar bones and have more awareness of the shape of my body that was under the fat it was a thing to celebrate.  

Answer 3

Actually no. I love seeing my body change and seeing things I haven't seen in a long time❤ But I don't see my Rib bones yet. I wish. Be proud of what you accomplished!  

Answer 4

It's my favorite part of my weight loss. Seeing my hip bones, ribs, collarbone. What I hate is the saggy bat wings and butt cheeks. I know thats exercise and toning. But excess skin at my stomach would need to be surgically removed. I'm 54 and had a c section. No exercise will make that go away

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@bottomless I worry about the extra skin when I get down to where I need to be. Surgery sounds so scary, but I won’t let it stop me from losing the weight.  

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@jone90482 nope, me either. Regardless, I'll be healthier and that's what counts

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@bottomless  

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I am also around your age and love the weight loss, but I feel like I look WAY older than I am. The extra skin everywhere is depressing. I feel like my face looks gaunt and yeah, I know my stomach will never be the same (not really too worried about that - I have two fabulous kids that my body carried and that always amazes me). It's the face. Oh well, thinner is healthier.  

Answer 5

No. I love my bones. ‍♀️

Answer 6

I thought my collar bones were weird to start with but I sort of got used to it now  mind takes longer to shift than body x

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@segarra46 so weird right for the mind to shift

Answer 7

When I lost my 160 lbs I began to freak out. I thought the bumps I was feeling ( bones) were tumors!  

Answer 8

Yes. It’s hard to release the protection barrier at times. Our weight can become a literal padding to our body insecurities. Be kind to yourself. Quit looking at that if it bothers you and find a position that makes you feel better. Maybe find new shapes that are forming you think are pretty. The brain is the last part of you to see the reality. I had to weigh myself four times this morning to believe the number.  

Answer 9

I had that feeling the first time I noticed my hip bones, laying on my side. It was fleeting though.  

Answer 10

It takes time to get used to a new you but so worth it!  

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@avens Thanksreman thx

Answer 11

Yes . If you have been overweight for awhile it takes a fair amount of time for ur brain to see u differently. Keep looking at yourself and celebrate

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@methadone7 that makes sense. Thx

Answer 12

I like being thinner the worst if when you lay on your side and you have skin/belly sag eeeek I can’t sleep as well

Answer 13

Find a therapist

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@signore i really don't need a therapist. What are they going to say. Especially if they never were overweight and doesn't know the feeling. It is just a weird feeling. I just need to get use to it. I would do therapy if needed. Not needed for this instance.  

Answer 14

You have what I call fathead. It takes a while but your brain and body will eventually sync.  

Answer 15

Im more grossed out by fat than feeling ribs. Everyone is different

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@methadone7 Hall West i was use to my fat.  

Answer 16

I lay in bed and feel my rib cage and hip bones

Answer 17

Your not used to seeing ribs. Congratulations! Not only is it wTching what you eat, it’s also changing how you think.  

Answer 18

Lol congrats. Wear a thicker shirt  

Answer 19

Feeling/seeing bones makes me happy. But I also realized on my journey that being fat was a protective wall around me. If I was fat men ignored me. If I was fat women weren't threatened by me. I was invisible. Maybe you feel like your "protection" is gone?  

Answer 20

Don’t like it, LOVE it!  

Answer 21

You’re on you way don’t look back look forward.  

Answer 22

This happens with my tail bone when I lose. I feel like I'm sitting on a rock. I cannot to get use to it.  

Comments

@piping9975 buy a donut cushion