I'm so sorry for your loss. Never weigh money and family. Family always wins. ❤ In 2011, my mother in law died and my husband had to fly to Puerto Rico. I chose to stay behind with our kids and paid for his brother to go. Although she had 20 kids, 15 alive, NONE OF THEM could afford to bury her! I took out money from a 457b retirement savings account and paid for her funeral, 2 flights a rental car and Miscellaneous items. Because it was an emergency, I didn't have to pay back my account. However, that depleted $4000 from savings. Worth the peace of mind that it provided to my Husband!