Question

A friend of mine lost her mom to COVID-19. She lives in New York. Any recommendations on a gift to send her? Maybe a book to talk about the grieving process? Her mom was her best friend. im normally not very good about this kinda stuff but that makes it worse. i dont know what to do or say to help her much less from afar.  

Answer 1

I’m so sorry. The best thing my friends did after losing my dad was to just keep checking in on me. there is a lot of sympathy the first few months, but then people drop off. Set a reminder for yourself to call her. I am sure anything you send would be appreciated.  

Answer 2

Personally might be too soon for a book but flowers chocolate wine plants. I saw this chocolate of the month club thing that would make a chocolate lover happier

Answer 3

I’m sorry for your friend’s loss. When I’ve experienced loss or my friends have, we have all agreed that a meal was particularly appreciated (they ordered pizza or from restaurants to deliver). Something edible always goes over well. A friend sent me a large cuddly teddy bear and a pretty and super soft blanket for comfort.  

Answer 4

The best thing you can do is be that available ear for whatever comes out of her mouth. Validate every emotion, no comparisons or minimization. She has to go through the grieving process no matter what so the best thing you and her loved ones can do, is make sure she's grieving safely andhealthy. That will be the best gift in the long run. For now, a card is fine along with checking up on her frequently and down the road. First year is always the hardest.  

Answer 5

Sunflowers! I was sent Sunflowers when I lost my dad. The first day was yeah that was nice, thoughtful, whatever . . I'm grieving. But each time I passed them it was like the SUN was shining. And day after day I would just look at their beauty and feel like God wanted me to smile again. See the beauty in the world. Enjoy life. The SUN was shining. Who could really be sad on a sunny day? I always send sunflowers now for deaths.  

Comments

@principality3 i love this!  

Answer 6

Maybe a card or meal and call or text to say you're thinking of her. As others have suggested, in a few months the support tends to drop off, so it's good to keep calling and just listen.  

Answer 7

When my dad passed recently, meals (if they aren’t nervous about delivered food right now, ) gift cards and even just thoughtful words in a card were wonderful!  

Answer 8

A pretty plant, tulips spring colorful flowers to show her you are thinking of her.  

Answer 9

When my my passed away her best friend sent me a wooden angel. Let me see if I can find it.  

Answer 10

So sorry to hear

Answer 11

Letting her know it’s ok to not be ok during this time. This month I particularly struggle with losing my Dad, sometimes it’s just nice to be reminded you don’t have to have it altogether. No one is expecting that. I bought an ornament that year for my tree, in honor of him. Every year I put the tree up I put it and know he is near. Maybe something she can hold close to heart.  

Comments

Hallmark sells nice memory ornaments @rai

Answer 12

I don’t think she’d care for gifts right now. I’d hold the gifts and just be available for her. You can always give gifts later at any other time. But just being “there” for her is enough.  

Answer 13

Someone I knew found someone to make a hug or memory pillow out of one of their loved ones old shirts they liked to wear. Otherwise I agree to just be there to let them cry or share in whatever way you can

Answer 14

Thanks everyone! Im going to use all these ideas one at a time!