Question

Does anyone get frustrated with their spouses? This morning I had 2 fried eggs for breakfast and coffee with reg creamer ( a little creamer is one of my joys) He said how many points are your eggs? I said zero. His response was I’m sure you shouldn’t have that creamer. I went off on him. I feel like he’s the WW police!  

Answer 1

Haha. My husband asks how many pts but says, that's good however, I had to arrange my pantry and one shelf is all MINE that he can't touch! The only time I get annoyed is when I "count" out pretzels, vegie sticks etc. and he walks by and grabs some.  

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@soften100 my husband does that too! Drives me crazy! Happy to share anything. except my portioned out snacks!  

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@lambert4 Exactly

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@race19 Goguen Falabella he can eat WHATEVER he wants. hands off MY stuff, lol

Answer 2

How many points in that?  

Answer 3

@collaborate If you are like me I get on edge when I’m adjusting to WW. Maybe your husband is excited for you taking this journey and thinks he is helping? I take a deep breath and count Hahahaha

Answer 4

You need to explain first of all that’s not helping me be successful. Second I can have anything I want to but I must be willing to spend my points on them. I ate zero point eggs so I could have the creamer. It’s all about give n take. I would love to share with you how the system works if your interested. If not remember I don’t need you to police what I am choosing to eat and or drink. But thanks for your concern.  

Answer 5

The program is all about making good choices permanent. Creamer is not the devil. Tell him that encouragement goes way further than nit picking.  

Answer 6

My husband is eating my WW snacks, counted out pretzels, and when I go get some there are not there. Maybe if you explains the program to him or tell him to go to a meeting with you (if you go to meetings). People will say is that on your diet. I say yes I can eat anything I want. Then make faces at them (maybe behind there backs)  

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@cynthla216 oh he knows, it's just easier to grab and run, lol

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@soften100 I know just a smart butt like my husband. Think they are funny.  

Answer 7

The only word my husband understands is “weeklies”  

Answer 8

Sounds like he has a death wish

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@leontina oh I've told him I watch all crime shows and if he doesn't knock it off, no one will find his body! Lol

Answer 9

Kindly tell him that it has to be up to you what you choose to spend you points on and that going under your points is not good either. Advise him you need his support which means NOT policing you as it makes you want to either hurt him or stuff things in you mouth. Hopefully he will get the picture if not refuse to discuss what your eating with him.  

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@toothless15 he knows that if there's POINTS written on it. it means hands off! Lol

Answer 10

My husband supports me. Thankfully or I'd be in jail for his death. Lol

Answer 11

I use the sugar free french vanilla liquid creamer and it is good and like maybe one pt. For one tbsp. it is 0 pts. Ha ha on the hubby! lol

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My husband is very supportive. Jk about the ha ha on the hubby.  

Answer 12

Nothing personal anymore

Answer 13

Our weight watchers coach said her husband used to do that to her. So one day she said I’ll do my own program, count my own points and let you live to see another day. He never did that again.  

Answer 14

Mine pays no attention and doesn’t mention when I lost 40 lbs. I would like a “little” attention lol.  

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Sometimes it is a good idea to be very specific in letting them know what you need to hear from them - maybe show him a before and after photo and say something like “ how do you like my weight loss results ? I’m so glad I found a program that is helping me “ or something along those lines . Maybe also say all the encouragement you get online is so helpful and some in person positive feedback would be great to .  

Answer 15

Yes ! mine does it all the time , , you ate two pieces of toast I'm like yea it was 2 points,  

Answer 16

Do you need an alibi?  

Answer 17

I had to tell my husband to knock it off too, after that he has left me alone

Answer 18

I might count out some tortilla chips and make some guacamole. I put it all on a plate and count every point. Then my husband comes along and thinks it's okay to take some, lol! He does not understand, lol! Those are my points, lol! I'm like, get your own!  

Answer 19

Mine has been very supportive. He always asks how many points I have before he suggests meals or going out. If we go out, he has me pick where based on my diet not his. He doesn't eat anything in front if me that he knows I really like but shouldn't eat. he's been great! He also asks me about and congratulates me on each loss I have.  

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@ligialignaloes7492 he’s a keeper. What a lovely husband you have.  

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@doorpost84, this is the end of month #2 on WW. I hope he can last as long as I can!  

Answer 20

So the two fried eggs are zero points? What do you fry them in?  

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@bornu I personally use oven liners cut to fit my frying pan, then a little bit of water. With a lid on it basically gets them in a bit of steam and cooks like a fried egg, but without any fat

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@adiel nice. thank u

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@bornu I use spray butter or butter pam

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@soften100 yes I've used Pam. thanks

Answer 21

Omg yes

Answer 22

Tell him you don’t need him to be your point checker. you can do that all by yourself. Tell him his job is to be your cheerleader. and that’s it.  

Answer 23

@collaborate just tell him to go and look in the mirror

Answer 24

My husband just eats eats and eats more. So annoying. Makes me think about food all the time cause all he does is eat.  

Answer 25

There needs to be that happy medium between hurtful and helpful.  

Answer 26

I can so relate.  

Answer 27

Lol. I do not even mention W. W. he has no clue. I have lost 25 pounds and he has not mentioned it. on the plus side, he never mentioned it when I gained 75. ( which was smart of him)

Answer 28

My husband always says "Are you allowed to have that? " Drives me batty!  

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Not my husband but other people think they are the ww police. I tell them I can have anything in moderation. I am not on a diet it is a healthy way of life change.  

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I told him i will still eat what ever i feel like eating. If i want a cookie, im eating that cookie. Will i have a salad for dinner then? Yup sure will. Balance and moderation.  

Answer 29

Just tell him that you already know how to count and you've got this and thanks very much for your concern.  

Answer 30

My teenage son does this to me and it’s so aggravating. I realize he’s only doing it because he wants his mom to be healthy, but I had to tell him his approach is wrong.  

Answer 31

My husband tells me I need to lose more, then he asks if I want a donut and he buys and eats candy, chips, pop, and snacks all day long always asking if I want some too.  

Answer 32

My response would be, "Fir safety reasons, I am paying we to monitor me. It's for your safety! "

Answer 33

Don't you just love it! I have the "evil eye look". and then we're done! LOL

Answer 34

8 months in and I still get” are you sure you’re allowed to have that? ” Thanks for your concern but I got this!  

Answer 35

Yes my husband does the same thing !  

Answer 36

My fiancé used to do the exact same thing. Then he joined to lose a little weight, and now he gets it lol!  

Answer 37

The placating, the snarking, the narcissistic knowing more than you know, is not love or support. Set some boundaries ladies. Stick to them. This is for you and your health not for their narcissistic ego. They are not in control of this you are. And remember other people get something from us being fat. Dont allow it and Premier shakes are 0 make a great tasty creamer. End of rant.  

Answer 38

Sounds like mine. He is asking out of curiosity

Answer 39

I would ask him is this your body or mine?!?  

Answer 40

Time for a friendly chat of what is helpful and that is not. Simple sentence with love.  

Answer 41

Mine sabotages by ordering pizza or other Italian takeout. I really think i he thinks doing it to help me. I think he’s not doing it to hurt but so that I don’t have to cook. I can’t seem to figure out a way to tell him without seeming like I’m ungrateful.  

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@supraorbital day hun can I do the ordering of takeaway food so I can contribute to my weight loss. But thank you, you’re so caring.  

Answer 42

When a person changes her individual behavior, lots of relationship pressure to revert back to the old norm. Causes angst in others. and a new norm. I know you won’t let their problem alter your resolve. When support isn’t available from one loved one, applaud yourself and move on. He or she may just catch up to you when they see your joy. If not sooner maybe later and if never, you are still full of joy and growing in self confidence. All good

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The dynamics between husband and wife is much different than just “ one loved one “ . Good luck to anyone not being effected by the attitude of their spouse . For good or bad. You can try to minimize the effect of negative input but no one can do that 100 % or its not happening.  

Answer 43

I get it I hAd three freakin pistachios and I get “ aren’t those fattening? I’m just trying to help? ” Yup, I went off on him too

Answer 44

No I would tell my husband to f off

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@abney  

Answer 45

He was trying to be helpful. Just say hun when I’m doing 3quarters right I’m in titled to a little treat. They clearly don’t understand.  

Answer 46

I’m thinking that, a). He is jealous of you losing weight. b). Feels threatened. c. ) Has control issues d. ) none of these but tell him kindly, “I’ve got this” and give him a wink. Wishing you all the best.  

Answer 47

Lol my boyfriend has no clue I’m doing WW or anyone for that matter

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@wedged you know I've always felt that was the best way to approach it! Otherwise every bite you put in your mouth (besides plain iceberg lettuce! ) Someone will say "can you have that". oh my it's grilled chicken breast ! No I just drink water and breath air! ‍♀️‍♀️

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@harborage haha exactly, don’t get me wrong he supports me I just do t want it to be a big deal

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@wedged exactly! I'm glad he's supportive.  

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@harborage  

Answer 48

Yup I get the same crud from mine. Just want to hit him over the head with a donut. Lol

Answer 49

My husband and my daughter do that to me!  

Answer 50

I would have reacted the same way! He needs to mind his own business!  

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Sorry freshly divorced!  

Answer 51

He's trying to understand the point system

Answer 52

Thank goodness mine is doing it with me or there might be a new cement pad out back lol

Answer 53

I got one of those to don’t let it bother you keep doing good despite the negativity

Answer 54

I’m doing WW with my husband and catch myself doing that same thing to him! I stop myself and think “WTH am I doing? ”‍♀️

Answer 55

That's why I didn't tell my husband for a while. Now we have an understanding

Answer 56

Men will be men, they just can’t help it

Answer 57

Does he have a hobby? Smile sweetly at him the next time he sticks his nose in, and tell him you're going to start questioning how much he spends or how he does things, if he doesn't mind his own.  

Answer 58

That’s fear. He’s afraid you are bettering yourself and will replace him.  

Answer 59

Words of wisdom: Don't let anyone steal your JOY. You can't control what he says, but you can control how you react. You've got the upper hand  he may be a slow learner and it may take a bit or he'll catch on quick and stop his unsupportive ways.  

Answer 60

He needs to support not criticize you . Or say nothing !  

Answer 61

Try explaining the point system to him, he was probably trying to help.  

Answer 62

Critique what is on his plate (with a smile)

Answer 63

Maybe he just trying to understand how it works. I don't understand why you all find it that you must go off on your spouse for asking a simple question about something thing they mostly likely don't understand. The answers some of you give just wow.  

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I'm sorry. it's a CONTROL thing and that type of control is DISRESPECTFUL.  

Answer 64

Yes! Did you scan that!  

Answer 65

Sometimes my husband does that too. Since he has always been generally supportive, I just remind him that I am in charge of my WW journey. I have lost 83 pounds in less than 2 years so I think I'm on track, and very occasional straying for a day or two may have stalled me at times, but I know to get back on track and am continuing toward my goal. I try to see it as interest and not criticism and just move on. I'm really not doing this for him. It is for me!  

Answer 66

Sorry. maybe he’s trying to help but the way he phrases doesn’t feel that way?  

Answer 67

My husband is the opposite. He can’t stand to know that I want something I shouldn’t have. He’s always offering me something and telling me it won’t derail me. “You can make up for it tomorrow. ” Lol

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@collaborate I get that and I was actually mad until we talked. He’s VERY caring and lives to give me everything I want. So, if I want a cheeseburger he thinks I should have one. After our convo, he gets it and has changed his perspective. He also bought me a treadmill last month so that is great for me. I’m very fortunate.  

Answer 68

Yep same here

Answer 69

He cares!  

Answer 70

That's my dad. My husband is great! My dad will say, can you eat that? I tell him we can have anything. He never gets it. I just ignore. If my husband did that, I'd go off on him too!  

Answer 71

Mine too. I feel you. Except I also have my kids joining in with him.  

Answer 72

That’s the problem of them trying to “help”. I can get away with thanks for reminding me but I got this. Be nice not scarcatic. I get defensive when I’m not confident with what I’m doing.  

Answer 73

My friend does that to her husband!  

Answer 74

My co-workers do it too

Answer 75

At least he’s paying attention. Mine brings home cookies and candy and pastries. (All my weakness) He tells me to just “don’t eat them”! I’ve been on my “first week” of WW forever it feels like. I wonder if it’s worth it!  

Answer 76

Mine is pretty supportive.  

Answer 77

Don’t let anyone sabotage your effort, and ask for thier help not criticizing is very supportive

Answer 78

You can eat ANYthing you want. You just count it and you have weeklies for extra situations or desires. Nothing is bad for you. Just takes your partner longer to understand how all this works. They’re trying, but a little clumsy at it.  

Answer 79

I am glad I don’t need the support as I know what it takes to achieve the goal; just don’t deliberately try and sabotage me!  

Answer 80

My husband with sit with a bag of chips and a beverage, as I snack on fruit or veggies.  

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@annettaannette is he still alive

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@cynthla216 yes, however he finished his bag of chips, and now he’s all sad.  

Answer 81

Men can be assholes sometimes!  

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So can women. It's a people problem. Not one or the other.  

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@microsecond agreed

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@kite good to hear

Answer 82

Y friend told her husband that his action was causing her to want to start stuffing all kinds of things down her mouth. tell him not to police you its you choice how to work your program and he cant do it for you.  

Answer 83

My husband signed up to lose 10 lbs at the same time I signed up to lose 40. He is tracking, using his fitbit points, the whole nine yards. Now everything WW is very important to him. He didnt get it til he joined. ♥️

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@microsecond Coleman - Marotta I wish my husband would join. I feel like the more I lose the more he gains

Answer 84

Annoying !  

Answer 85

Just ignore him and keep tracking. Then spray the kitchen floor down with cooking spray and watch him crash I wouldn’t really do it but that is what would be going through my head.  

Answer 86

That is what they do

Answer 87

Maybe the stress form your husband caused io uto overeat