Question

I’m having a really hard time during this Covid crisis. Normally when not around my kids things are fine, but I have an autistic child and he is getting increasingly violent. He punches and threatens my other kids and myself. The other day he even came at me with a steak knife. I don’t know what to do and turn to food or cry and stay in bed. I am at my whits end and feel so down. I’ve only lost one pound this month. I can’t even go on walks because he won’t go and I can’t trust him alone with my other two, he’s only 7. What do I do?  

Answer 1

Does he receive services? What state are you in. Contact his school/ service providers for assistance

Answer 2

So sorry. I know nothing about autistic children but can you take him to a doctor and get some sort of medicine? Therapy maybe. I am sure you have done everything you know to do, I am just throwing out thoughts. Hang in there. Prayers for you and your family

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Call your child's pediatrician and report this behavior and ask for help and guidance. Also, if you have extended family, ask for help.  

Answer 4

((Hugs)) Have you considered tele-therapy? And, for yourself, take advantage of the Mindset section on your app

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Right now at noon est autismspeaks. zoom. us

Answer 6

I am so sorry. That sounds awful. I will definitely pray for you & your family. Do you have a support system you can use? Hang in there.  

Answer 7

You definitely need help in the home. You also need an outlet. This is hard considering the covid crap. I wish I lived near you and could help you. My heart is with kids and adults with special needs. ( daughter has Down syndrome). Is there any types of help you can get where you live?  

Answer 8

Try messaging her! She is an awesome source❤️

Answer 9

Have you reached out to your school district to see what they can do for your son during this time? I know most districts are providing some kind of support during this time.  

Answer 10

First I'm so sorry for what your going through. My question is does the food help? Nope I think not, so then can you find another outlet? Your turning to food is making it worst. Don't keep the trigger food in the house. Your kids can now learn how to eat healthy as well. Gosh I want to give you a hug.  

Answer 11

Does he get any services from your state? It sounds like you need some respite care for both of you! I work with adults with different abilities and I know that Autistic people like to stay in their routine. My prayers for you!  

Answer 12

Praying for you and your situation. Stay safe

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I’m praying for you

Answer 14

My nephew was like that. He was put in the hospital by his psychologist and was put on meds. Then as he got middle school years he had a buddy that took him everyday. But he sounds just like your son. My sister had the patience of a saint. She tried taking away red dye and sugar. It did seem to help. But he really was out of control. They lived here in Florida so it was available then. She has passed away and he still has a buddy who helps him out.  

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Our nearest family is 6 hours away. I normally am fine but sometimes you just have a breaking point. He doesn’t understand why he can’t see his friends. The school won’t do anything for him, they are not trained in ABA therapy. I was set to have a meeting with the principal and superintendent the Monday quarantine went into effect, how convenient.  

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@responsibility856 you need to find services for him start with primary dr , you’ll likely need a specialist to help find services for him, it’s a long road but there is help out there, try to regain your strength, take care of you this will help you to cope better with the situation, I wish you the best and hope you find the help and services you need

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Please reach out to you child's school social worker. They can help find you resources and support. Even though our schools are closed, staff is still working and will do what they can to find you help. In my district OT/PT and social workers as well as school Psych's are available to assist. You have a challenging job mom, give yourself some grace and just focus on doing what you can to take care of yourself, as they say, " you can't pour from an empty cup" even if its locking yourself in the bathroom for 10 minutes of peace. Can you get respite assistance at all?  

Answer 17

As a mom of a violent autistic child I understand. You are not alone nor a bad mom! This is tough times and tougher without having a break! My son is older now and I can imagine what it's like. To be honest, I'm impressed you did that one pound! Hang in there, this too shall pass and remember, your not alone!  

Answer 18

Could you reach out to your school or social services to see if there is respite care available. Your doctor may be of help as well.  

Answer 19

Contact school district to put you in touch with the school social worker. That person should be able to help. I wouldn’t hesitate calling the pediatrician who knows the family and child. The dr may be able to assist with a temporary solution. Prayers.  

Answer 20

I would ask a professional for help. I have no experience with this but wanted to say I’m sorry your experiencing this, I can’t imagine how hard it must be for your family. Nobody asks for these situations  I wish you the beat and hope things improve soon for you.  

Answer 21

I work as a support worker and think you need a referral from gp to a socail worker so you can get a support worker in to help you out. You are doing a fabulous job. And if you comfort eat and it helps you with stress so be it. Things wont always be so tough hang in there xx

Answer 22

You poor dear. I'm a nurse with a mentally ill son. These are indeed challenging times for you. Have you found online support groups helpful regarding your child's condition? Safety first at every cost. It's hard, but you may need to do what mental hospitals do and lock up potential "weapons. " Temporarily at least. Finding community support is hard during this time. Normal resources are unaccessable. Please give yourself every grace regarding your diet at this time.  

Answer 23

Wow. Do you have someone who usually works with him at school? I would call your son's doctor and see what help you might be able to get. As for your weight loss, I would say you are doing very well I g anything at all. Please let us know how you are doing. Hugs

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Another thought. Do you belong to an ASD support group? Maybe someone there might be able to help you.  

Answer 24

I have to keep reminding myself that no matter how stressed/frustrated/confused I am, it is easily ten times worse for my son, who thrives on routine. I wish I had some advice, or even a reassurance that it gets easier but alas . . my son is almost 25 and quite a bit bigger than his parents.  

Answer 25

Oh man that is so hard so sorry

Answer 26

Have you thought of doing a zoom or FaceTime chat for him with his friends?  

Answer 27

There is help out there & it sounds like you really could use a break. Your family doctor should be able to refer you to someone. I hope you can find someone to help you with your child.  

Answer 28

The fact that you lost anything is a miracle considering what you’re going through. God bless. Some excellent suggestions here from folks who understand your situation. Congrats to you for reaching out! God bless & keep you!  

Answer 29

Are IEP’s being enforced? I agree that respite is key. I would contact Promise of Brevard, Catholic Churches and Autism Programs for information and support. My heart breaks for you.  

Answer 30

I have a dr appointment today at 2. The social worker in my sons school is a joke. I went to her and asked and I work there as a teacher! I have video messages from his teacher and his best friend. He goes outside when weather permits but it was still snowing last week and it’s still not real warm outside. I’m hoping the dr has some answers. He is more high functioning but when he has these episodes as we call them it’s as though he doesn’t remember what he did. You question him and he said he never did that. My husband is no help because he is an essential worker and works 70+ hours a week. Thank you all for listening it makes me feel not so alone.  

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@responsibility856 totally understand what you’re going through. My daughter is a special needs teacher. These kids are out of their normal. They’re very structured and don’t do change well. The school should be open to helping you. Bless you! It is a rough spot to be in.  

Answer 31

Is he verbal and were you able to access the help people have suggested? If you can't get the support you need locally, you can pm me. My son is on the spectrum and I have some experience with behaviours like this that I have found solutions for. It may be that your situation is beyond my help but at the very least I'm more than willing to help trouble shoot and certainly don't mind being an ear to talk to. It's hard to be alone with this.  

Answer 32

Hi @responsibility856 I just want to say you are a good mom and you’re not alone. We have experienced similar problems. We found a group here in Seattle, called Changes that supports very difficult kids. You might look at their website but finding support is so important. I felt so tired and than guilty. Text me if you want, anytime.  

Answer 33

I think you are AMAZING Kelley! And you LOST a pound✅ Stay in the moment. and the meal. Do the best you can and that IS enough. So many plates you juggle and doing it well Pray And pray hard. Lots is deep breaths. Idk the struggles of autism parenting but I will pray for you both

Answer 34

I would look on fb for a support group for children with autism. There are some amazing groups. Also your community should have programs to help. a dr maybe? Sounds like even tho the corona crisis is going on maybe you could find him some kind of help or you some kind of respite. Hang in there. And be proud of that pound loss! Its progress.  

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One group is Neural Balance- you could check them out. Lots of parents

Answer 35

I have never had to deal with that but maybe call your pedi or call an autistic hotline. Also not sure what state you live in but there are a lot of research studies that can give you counsel . You must de escalate before things turn deadly. Bless you and your family

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Research studies are typically conducted by Universities

Answer 36

Autism speaks might be able to guide you in a couple directions.  

Answer 37

Is there someone you can call to give you advice? How old is he?  

Answer 38

Can you provide schedule for your child. Structure the child’s day. Reinforce frequently

Answer 39

Cut yourself some slack this 2 shall pass

Answer 40

Just take care of yourself right now. Don’t sweat the small stuff. WW will be there when this is over. Prayers and hugs

Answer 41

God Bless you and your family.  

Answer 42

It sound like your autistic child needs to be hospitalized before he harms you or your other children. You don't need to worry about your weight right now. Take care of the most immediate needs first. You are calling out for help and that is the first step. Now do something before someone gets hurt or before children serices steps in. I wish you the best.  

Answer 43

Prayers for you all.  

Answer 44

He needs more help than you can give in home. Please call social services or an md or a psych for help for him (and you and your other children who don’t need to be subjected to this)

Answer 45

I would hope that you called the police! Safety is first for you & your other children!  

Answer 46

I think it’s time for you to sit down and consider the next step with him, before you or one of the other children is hurt

Answer 47

Get some help girl. You shouldn’t do this alone. God bless. Saying a prayer for you now.  

Answer 48

Dont feel bad to call police: it leaves a great paper trail for when you need additional help.  

Answer 49

I’d say call you doctor.  

Answer 50

I’m so sorry. I hope you have a support group

Answer 51

I work with Special Needs kids. This is a tough time since you don’t have any breaks. Does he have a case manager or psychologist at his school site that can help you with resources?  

Answer 52

My son is 27 years old and has autism. This is such a difficult time. We put an inflatable jacuzzi in the dining room since he was used to going to the pool every single day of his life. I consult with his behaviorist and psychiatrist, and medication and a schedule has kind of helped. Plus drive throughs for coffee, ice cream, cheeseburgers, chicken. Just getting out in the car even has helped us. I do still have an aide come in every day and take him for a walk for an hour. That allows me time to drink my coffee, shower and get dressed. I would advise to not worry about your weight at this time. Just surviving right now is all that matters.  

Answer 53

My sons autistic child responds best if they structure the day like a school day. Bless you, so very hard.  

Answer 54

Hugs! I’m so sorry you’re facing this! Frankly I think losing a pound this month is a HUGE VICTORY! I have an autistic son who’s 18 now. Before we got him medicine, when he was like 6, we had some very tough times. He would bang his head repeatedly, etc. Your son probably needs to see a psych doctor. The medicine that helped my son a lot is guanfacine (generic! ). I only tell you this so you have a starting point. A doctor needs to get involved. Im so sorry - I know how stressful it can be. And I know how hard thinking of medicating can be. But for us, it was life changing in a great way. Hugs! ❤️❤️❤️

Answer 55

One more thing - I had a friend tell me her twin sons had terrible reactions to red dye #5 and they were really tough. She got them off foods with red dye #5 (because why not try it since it’s easy enough and free to do! ) and they totally changed. Something else to consider. hugs! ❤️❤️❤️

Answer 56

We contacted NAMI Each chapter is indivisible so there is that. Ours was VERY helpful.  

Answer 57

Red dye, wow. When my Dd was young, she was in bad shape & it was due to ALL food coloring! We were involved in the Fiengold Society. It saved us!  

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Just looked it up & still exists! Dd, @ 50 yo still cannot have food coloring!  

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God bless you all!  

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Feingold diet helped my granddaughter.  

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Red dye is the worst  

Answer 58

Please check with your local Board of Developmental Disabilities. They are wonderful help and support where I am.  

Answer 59

It's really important that everyone stay safe. Do not be afraid to call 911. Coming at you with a knife is not ok, it doesn't matter if he's autistic or not. Also, many clinics are doing virtual and over the phone visits for mental health. Look into your area. I am a mental health provider and I am doing these types of visits. Number one priority right now is to stay safe!  

Answer 60

Sending you a Hug ! I hope you can call and get the help you and all of your children need. Also saying a prayer ! ♥️

Answer 61

I think you need some respite help.  

Answer 62

If he has an IEP i would speak with the schools on this. Also I would lock up all the items u believe to be dangerous in your house as he shouldn't have access to them. I'm so sorry  having a 9, 5, and 1 month old locked all together has been rough they are constantly fighting over space.  

Answer 63

Call his doctor

Answer 64

You need to take care of yourself. Look on you tube for some yoga, dance exercise, or Zumba! They’re great stress relievers! Maybe have him do it with you!  

Answer 65

Can you talk to his teacher or child study team For some suggestions

Answer 66

Praying for you

Answer 67

Does he have a paraprofessional that works with him, either at school or through his doctor? If so, contact that person and discus possible ideas. Contact the Autism Society for resources available. Find an activity or subject that he enjoys and calms him down. He is responding this way because his normal routine that he is used to has changed, and this change is causing him anxiety. He does not know how to handle his anxiety, so is acting out. It is an extremely tough spot to be in, but reach out for help it is there. How about asking him to go on a walk with you? A different environment might be what he needs, and he might find something's along the walk that interest him, and this could be something to get him to focus on instead of the anxiety. Take care of yourself.  

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@etch8 I second this. One on one’s are a GREAT help and typically a steady constant!  

Answer 68

Prayers, hugs

Answer 69

There are sites online for mental health help. I am sure you can find one that will help you. I hope you get the help you need quickly. God bless you and help you and your son. ❤️

Answer 70

Im so so so sorry to hear all your struggles Kelley:( s Is he on meds to manage his behavioral patterns? Is he in a school program? Do they any programs on line for him to do? Is he receiving any therapy at school? if so. is it possible for a weekly or better daily sessions? Do you have a backyard where he can play? Follow Finding Cooper's Voice here on FB. she has a non verbal autistic son, and she is a wealth of information:) Praying for you.  

Answer 71

A shower of hugs headed your way

Answer 72

As a mother of a grown son, I empathize. As a retired school psychologist he needs professional intervention. I would consult your pediatricion right away. Then I would conact your mental health department and communicate that his safety and yours is at stake. He needs a peds psychiatric evaluation and you need a behavioral specialist that can off some virtual therapy. Sorry for your profound issues. Friend me if I can help or message. Be well and safe!  

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@clarkson29 that is exactly what I was going to tell her as well. I work with kids and adults with special needs. This is hard for people having their schedules all disrupted. Imagine what it is doing to him also. We understand how to deal and cope but his skills aren't like ours. Contact someone as soon as you can for help. You can pm me as well if you need someone to talk to. Prayers for the best outcome for you both. Reach out, it helps. We are in this together. It's ok to lean on other people and ask for help. We are here. Reach out any time. Hugs

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@responsibility856, , I hope you have spoke mw/ your Dr or a pediatrician. I'm sure they can help u. this is an awful situation for u and your child. clearly he needs help. I hope u will let us know what the dr says. please, don't wait. god bless u and your child.  

Answer 74

Praying for you. Patience is so hard to practice in quarantine. I’m fortunate to have my daughter and get family living with us. My two grand daughters 5 and 2 wreck my house all day. I cook and clean non stop. But, I would rather the crazy than being quarantined alone. Bless you and your family. Stay strong.  

Answer 75

I'm so sorry. it must be so difficult for everyone. Perhaps his teachers might have a suggestion. or speak to his doctors about medication perhaps to calm him down? I'm not pushing drugs, but it might help during this difficult period. Good luck and Gd bless you.  

Answer 76

Call Bradley Hospital for advice and / or Pediatrician

Answer 77

Prayers for you and your family. Hope you get some doctors help

Answer 78

Do you have an option of getting Respite care for him?  

Answer 79

Also, remember eating healthy will make you feel better than eating crap. Drink more water before putting something unhealthy in your mouth/maybe it will deter. you from even wanting it

Answer 80

Do you not have this child in programs Where does he go when you’re at work

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@brunabrunch Cyr This is her child why would she have knives Accessible to an Autistic child

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This is a weight watchers group we are not professionals on autism

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@guenna She should know how to take care of her own autistic child

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All parents are not strong on every single day of the week. Even parents of non autistic children have days when they cry. Let this mom get her tears out.  

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@encomium19698 She should know how to take care of her autistic child she should’ve had training through the programs that her child is in if any

Answer 81

Sorry to be so blunt, but PLEASE consider making all of this known to the proper people. I know you understand your love and responsibility to this child, but you may need steps taken for your other children, before there is a tragic event in your home. For some things, there is NO DO OVER. I KNOW you are over whelmed but you really need help from professionals. Love is doing everything within your power, on your own. Wisdom and maturity is asking for help before something very regretful takes place. It takes STRENGTH to ask for help. Please don't wait.  

Answer 82

Please trash all your knives, scissors anything that could be used as a weapon. I am so sorry you are going through this. Please call a helpline to get through this. You can’t keep your son home if he’s s a threat to you and your family. Wishing everything goes well. ❤️

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@colloquialism Why would knives be accessible to an autistic child

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@teraterai if a child has violent behavioral problems they can’t be trusted with dangerous items. Needs to be locked away!  

Answer 83

I'm so sorry you're going through this. You need to focus on being as healthy as you can under the circumstances. Maybe right now just maintenance of your current weight is all you can. I know for me water makes a big difference so I try to make that my go to drink. Your dr may be open to help with your son. I think you are doing amazing for even losing weight right now. Sounds like you have alot on your plate. Good luck and hugs.  

Answer 84

Sounds like he needs his medicine adjusted. If he is on any

Answer 85

Do you or you husband/wife have insurance? A lot of insurance carriers offer free emotional support over the phone. Maybe they can help you when he goes to bed. I’m sorry you’re (all) struggling.  

Answer 86

I am a related arts teacher and I know what you are struggling with is so hard. Give yourself a huge break! You do what ever self care you need to do and maybe for now just put the scales up! Color, sing dance do what ever you need to help you find some peace! These are extraordinary times and if you are dealing with all this you are a strong woman. I am proud of you for reaching out!  

Answer 87

I think you should call your pediatrician and resources, especially the governmental ones. I feel sure that they have contingencies for your situation. Please call them. And keep calling until you find help you need. Don't give up! WW is what you do for yourself and to give yourself the nourishment to be strong.  

Answer 88

Call his doctor

Answer 89

Yes call his doctor. God Bless you.  

Answer 90

His day is [normally] very structured, very therapeutic and somewhat intense, ” Cosgrove said. “It can be tiring for a little guy, [but] that’s his usual routine. ” Parents across the country have had to get crafty with the ways they entertain their young ones due to COVID-19 — but Cosgrove’s job is slightly more challenging than most.  

Answer 91

Speaking from experience, you need to get help for your children and yourself. First thing you do is lock away anything that can cause harm to him, your other children and yourself. Has he been seen by a child neurologist , and child psychologist? there are many drugs that can be tried and behavior modification techniques, and you definitely need to protect your self and the other two children. Does he have an IEP, and have you contacted DDD ?  

Answer 92

OMG bless your heart. i will say prayers for you. you have your hands full . I'm an emotional eater too so I totally get it.  

Answer 93

That's terrible

Answer 94

Get help dont be ashamed you need to reach out to have some relief. Even on the classified look for a student that would Visit and help with him Lock up all knives

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@birk144 Social distancing and isolation you can’t bring a student into your home

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@teraterai wasnt thinking of that

Answer 95

You might want to consult a doctor who can hopefully offer you some direction!  

Answer 96

Bless your heart!  

Answer 97

123 Magic DVD by Thomas Phelan is great.  

Answer 98

You could call your state DHHS Child and Family Service/Child Protection agency’s intake hotline to see if they have prevention programs available. They can refer you to the right services and supports in the community, and help give ideas on how to keep your home safe for everyone. Good luck!  

Answer 99

An update. I talked with his dr today and we are starting him on medication. He got to hear Noah having and episode while having a virtual visit. Locking up all knives. Praying hard this all works. When distancing is lifted he will be back with his BCBA’s he loves for 1-2 days per week while they help me confront the school to get him hell there too. Thank you all for understanding and praying for me.  

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@responsibility856 I'm a therapist and mom of a child on the spectrum. Lock ALL sharps, such as scissors, razors, etc. Think of other things that are heavy that he can throw and hurt someone, and lock those up too. Can his ABA do some virtual session? And can he get an increase in ABA?  

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@responsibility856 Confront his school? As a teacher, what does that mean? What about his pediatrician? Have you told them what he’s doing? Start there now? Where is dad? Is he in the picture? List the resources you currently have and seek out help NOW. School most likely won’t reopen this year.  

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@bluegrass6979 , she already gave an update with a solution let her see if that will work first

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@hold867 Russell , she already gave an update with a solution allow her time to see if that will work first.  

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@unwatched coming to WW with this is a big cry for help! This is dangerous and asking more questions may help her with a new idea.  

Answer 100

My heart hurts with you. I’m retired special ed. You’re blessed To be in this group of caring friends. Get rid of the danger. Easier said than done sometimes. Oy. I’m glad you reached out and are getting advice.  

Answer 101

I sent you a friend request just so you could go to my page and see the comments. I have always had a soft spot for children with autism. My heart breaks for you and I have the utmost respect for you! I’m waiting on a friend to give me a contact that you may be able to talk with!  

Answer 102

That’s a really difficult situation- you are not alone & there IS help out there! • consult a doctor • consult his current teacher • consult an autism specialist • look for Autism Mama groups • lock up anything deadly sharp • be gentle with yourself, things are crazy, no added pressure. You’ll get through this!  

Answer 103

Sending positive thoughts and prayers to help you through this difficult time. I am sure everyone in your family has stress while this isolation is going on. It might be hitting him too. Stay positive. I know that is easier said than done some times.  

Answer 104

Have you tried aba therapy

Answer 105

‍♀️ my 14yo is high functioning and while he is not violent, the questions NEVER END. from one mom to another, you’re not alone. It’s been 5wks of absolute stress eating. I was down -88lbs and this week I’ve had my first legit gain (5-7lbs). Hang in there ❤️

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@derbent Lewis Leese I've gained 6. 7 pounds in the past two weeks

Answer 106

Take to ED for consult or call your local crisis number . We have autistic kids come in for eval due to behavior and making sure you mom is safe along with other kids

Answer 107

I will pray

Answer 108

You are amazing

Answer 109

One pound is still a loss, not a gain. You’ve done well. Keep chizzling away slowly and if you can maintain and ride through covid 19 (or even if you can’t) that’s ok. This year is just about survival, you don’t have to achieve anything more than that. The less stress and pressure on your back right now the better. x

Answer 110

Of course I will pray for him and you. I have a friend who is going through the same thing. She has done nothing. Her other friends are all worried about the situation. If he has a counselor , please talk to them. There has to be things they know more than you might. Stress is hard on you and I am sorry.  

Answer 111

Praying this is all over soon so you and your son get the help and relief you need. God bless you special lady!  

Answer 112

Try and get him help. Talk to your Dr. don’t wait. Sounds like it is urgent you get him help and keep your family safe

Answer 113

Do you have Netflix? Watch the Magic Pill, there was a family struggling with their daughter, they changed her diet and amazing things happened for their daughter, helping the family, maybe this could help your son?  

Answer 114

These are such tough times. I pray God looks over you all & gives you the extra patience when needed.  

Answer 115

I am so sorry for your situation. You should follow "CODY SPEAKS" on fb, it is put out by a mom who has a now 19y/o with aggressive autism. He has improved through the years. She has almost daily little video clips and explains what works and doesn't work with her son and she answers questions in the comments. I bet you could contact her. As far as ww, there are exercises you can do without leaving the house. Dancing, put on music you enjoy and dance. Cardio-drumming from you tube videos, body groove, strength training, Wii fit, exercise bike, or treadmill, etc. If your son is interested he may join you and burn off some energy from being in the house everyday. Your mom if she is able may join you too. With the dancing, during the lockdown, my friend has been having 10 minutes dance parties through out the day. Someone turns on the music, yells dance party and everyone drops what they are doing and dances. Her kids love it.  

Answer 116

Praying for you and your family, dear one! My youngest nephew is autistic, and being at home has been hard on him and his family, especially my sister. One day at a time, this will pass. And remember, you are uniquely qualified by God to be his mommy. ❤️

Answer 117

You lost a pound! Girl, that is a huge celebration! You are doing a great job.  

Answer 118

Contact his doctor

Answer 119

He probably senses the stress during this time and he can't express

Answer 120

What I hear is that you’re not ok. You need support and need help as you are overwhelmed. Can you reach out for help? Do you have a partner?  

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@bodi197 does your son have an aide, if not get one, they are a huge help

Answer 121

I am so sorry you and your family is struggling. In our prayers.  

Answer 122

He may need a medication change and extra prayers for all of you. God loves you and him.  

Answer 123

I am so sorry to hear that, you need to find help for your son. Maybe its because he is out of his routine and does not know how to handle all the new stimuli? Please reach out to an Autistic center for help. I am a grandparent to an autistic child, who is not violent. He is also older and has learned how to handle the extra stimuli that upsets him or bothers him. Please get help for your sake and his! God Bless you and your son!  

Answer 124

I have worked with many developmentally disabled children and adults and first thing is you need to have your knives and any sharp objects put away in a locked draw core cabinet he shouldn't be able to get to those things it is dangerous for all of you including himself. Maybe he should have someone with him a little bit so that you can have some time for yourself sometimes that can be expensive but it is worth your sanity to get out and do some things alone even if it's only an hour you need that break. It takes a special person to be able to care for an autistic child I did it for 15 years as employment and let me tell you how many times I went home with bruises on my face or other parts of my body from teenage boys and girls or out on short term disability or just a few days investigated and all kinds of things it's a very tough job and even more so when it's your own child I feel for you but I also give you credit because many people put their children in institutions or group homes because they can't handle it. I know it is hard when you can only do what you can do. Reach out to friends when is Coronavirus is over where agencies that may be able to give you some help because you do have to take care of yourself or you'll be no good to the rest of your family. And yes a pound is a pound we have to survive through this virus first and yes the less pressure on your back the better right now yes talk to a doctor get some help it is very important that you do this to keep everyone safe bless you you are so special

Answer 125

Does he respond to social stories? I was thinking about a walk in the neighborhood story and all the people, pets, trees, flowers, etc that he’ll see. Plan on having him do a favorite activity when he gets home. Bless you

Answer 126

I will be praying for you. I understand that this is a cry out for help and you are probably at your wits end. If you have EAP at your job please reach out to them if possible. Please learn to overlook these people on here who think that they have all of the right answers. None of us will always have the right answers 100% percent of the time. Also please try to find a support group for parents with autistic children. As you can see from these responses. this definitely "ain't" it. Lord on today we pray for @responsibility856. Lord we ask you in the name of Jesus to protect her mind. Provide peace when there is no peace. And guide her into the direction that you would have her to go in.  

Answer 127

My sister had to place her autistic son in a group home, because of these type of issues. He was happier & safer. They loved & missed him, but it was what worked for them.  

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@fob My stepsister had to do this with her daughter. She said that it was the hardest, but most rewarding thing they’ve had to do! She’s now back at home, and much happier!  

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@statis255 it was so hard for sister too! Her son needed the same schedule everyday. He flourished being in same routine everyday. He learned so much & his needs were met. They could take him home for holidays or anytime they wanted him overnight. It worked for her & family & other children.  

Answer 128

Call his doctor!