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Has anyone experienced this?  Starting my journey, I got so much support but now that I’m down nearly 60 pounds, people keep saying comments like “Don’t lose anymore or there will be nothing left of you” and “You’re wasting away. I still have 30-40 pounds to lose and won’t let their comments deter me but my goodness. is it ever frustrating!
Has anyone experienced this?  I still have 30-40 pounds to lose and won’t let their comments deter

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Yes. My husband.  
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@dianetics yes! He was one of them! I just told him that he has been used to being at my heaviest for so long but I’m becoming healthy and he needs to get used to it.  
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I told him his opinion doesn’t count because he doesn’t live in my head or my skin. And by the way, I AM going to be getting all the skin lifted and tucked.  
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@dianetics yes!  
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Someone called me scrawny recently. Do what’s best for you!  
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@saul1819 I have a friend at church that calls me Bones and punches my scapula every week.  
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I've learned that there are going to be haters and sabotagers. Keep doing you!  
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Ha! Gotta love the haters! I’d say, think I’m hot now. wait til summer, lol.  
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Yes. It is inevitable. I truly feel like you will just know when you reach your goal. Remember who you are doing this for - you!  
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Having a mother with an eating disorder, I would caution people to take the comments to heart and discuss with your physician. I have seen diets lead to serious eating disorders. If your physician agrees, you can let those people know when they comment.  
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@monterrey16 my physician did give me a good goal weight so I’m going with that.  
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That is all you need to do :)
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I'm just starting. Any tips?  
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@insolation5398 for me, I started with making a list of my “whys” I was starting this journey. Then I made a realistic goal and have set up milestones where I treat myself to mini-rewards. non food related. Drink enough water and “eat the sheet” and you WILL succeed! Don’t get discouraged if the weight doesn’t come off right away. It didn’t all come on right away so it will take time. When you need encouragement, lean on all of us. We got you!  
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@mclaurin66423 thank you!  
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I’ve heard people say that in a group before. I never experienced that.  
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My mom does that! Whenever someone is a healthy weight she likes to tell them they are too skinny. I think it's partly an insecurity thing. Since she is not at a healthy weight she likes to make people feel bad if they are. It's frustrating and I honestly keep my dieting a secret from her as much as I can so I don't have to hear comments.  
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The are just haters. do your thing  
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Consider what they are saying as a compliment. Be proud of your accomplishments and just quietly keep doing YOU.  
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Best answer! I don't think people say this to be mean or to impede your progress.  
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I like the idea of receiving such comments as awkward compliments. I can’t wait to get one of these comments, kind of a NSV. I agree that you and your physician know what’s best for you. BTW, great work!  
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@sedgewake thank you! I never thought of it as a NSV til you mentioned it! I’m excited for my next doc appointment to show her all the hard work I did.  
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You've got this @mclaurin66423!  
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That happened to me too just first time around. I think they are jealous!  
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It’s all about how you feel! I get the same thing. I think they mean well but I’m not doing this for anyone other than me! I take it as a compliment and carry on.  
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Yup. I go by charts. Height, weight, blood work. It doesn't lie.  
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I know I hate that response
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People just aren’t used to seeing you at your new size. I think they mean well however, it plays with our heads! Keep on keeping on till your goal weight! Congrats so far  
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IGNORE. if anything you will realize people are jealous and don’t want you to succeed, don’t listen just keep on your journey and prove them all wrong. Cling to the love and support from your family and if you have children ? That’s the best kind of loving when you hear “you look great mom “ I am proud of you mom “ everyone else can go lick salt . just saying Today I turn 52 and I have lost 80 pounds on IP it’s an amazing lifestyle just stick with it. Your worth it
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@jack my children are part of my “why” and I want to be an example for them. I’m going to keep pushing forward. ❤️
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@mclaurin66423 amazing keep going  
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Girrrrrrl, tell them your not going for a look and elaborate on your health achievements! You make flip their negative into a self reflect moment for them! lol #FlipTheScript Congrats btw! Continue to encourage "newbies" like me!  
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@kathline ☝️ This! Exactly what I needed to hear. ❤️
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I'm getting those same comments
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Yes. It's odd.  
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Don't mind them and do whatever you want to feel good about yourself, it's not their journey, it's yours
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There are many passive aggressive jealous people that want to derail you with their snide comments. Let their negativity be wind beneath your wings and a power boost when you falter. Enjoy them as a power surge. And smile smile smile! ❤️‍♂️‼️
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Always! What it means is that you are on the right track. ♥️
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Keep up the great work! Don’t let anyone bust your bubble.  
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I had people saying the same thing to me. While I was still in the "obese" category at the doctor's office! Just keep going and be healthy! It was actually difficult for people in my life to adjust to me not being the "fat one" anymore. It changes relationships with those around you. Stay strong and keep going. You got this!  
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I would take it as a compliment.  
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I think a lot of it depends on your height and how you carry your weight. Maybe people don’t realize what weight you actually are (which can be a blessing! ) I’m 5’10 so even when I’m 155 people assumed I was 120s. I knew the number on the scale but nobody else could really tell. I lost weight for my wedding and knew what I wanted to look like. That was my why and I stuck to it. I think a lot of it can depend on how the changes really become obvious and all of a sudden everyone thinks you’re withering away. Take it as a compliment and continue knowing where you want to be for your health and wellness!  
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@melancholy95 yes. I am 5’4”. No one would have ever guessed I was 238 at my heaviest. Ever.  
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Remember these people have seen you at your heaviest, so to them you will look smaller than someone who has never seen you. Or what your actual number on the scales say. Could be genuine concern. Keep doing what you are doing ❤️
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Yes! I had one co-worker tell me I shouldn't lose any more weight, that the only place I could lose it from was my face! I am overly sensitive about my round face, so of course, I went back to the privacy of my office and cried. But then I pulled myself together and reminded myself why I am doing this. definitely not to have a skinny face (and as my sweet, sweet mama reminds me all the time, my round face helps plump out and hide all my wrinkles ;) ). I am about to turn 51 and I am the healthiest and strongest I have ever been in my entire adult life, and I finally feel like I have complete control over what I choose to put in my mouth and body. Hang in there, and remember your why! <3
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@greenhead6 I have kind of the opposite problem. I’ve had a thin face as long as I can remember. since elementary school. It doesn’t get thinner when I lose weight but of course people point out my thin face as I lose weight and then I get self conscious all over again. ‍♀️
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@mclaurin66423 Oh gosh, some people?! Round-faces, thin-faces, square-faces, all faces. we are all beautiful and strong and obviously believe in ourselves and our ability to become the BEST versions of ourselves or we wouldn't be on this journey together. Stay strong and just ignore the nay-sayers, some people just don't know how to be polite and compassionate. <3
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Yes. This is not about them. It's about you. Stay healthy.  
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You don't have to explain your weight to anyone. When I was young i was thin. People would tell me that I looked sick that I should gain weight. . When I quit smoking at 40 I did gain weight. One lady was so happy i did gain and said oh my God you finally have a stomach!  
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Some folks say those things just to be supportive. Take it as encouragement to keep going. Better than them say ‘well looks like you still have 30-40 to go’.  
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Ma'am, forget them people! Do what's going to be best for your health and mental wellbeing!  
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Don’t pay any attention to what other people say
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I absolutely had this and still, one person even said I looked “pathetic” and I was still 10 pounds “overweight” according to my BMI so I was in no way too thin. Some people are just being mean, projecting their own insecurities and some are trying to pay you a compliment but don’t really know how so they say things like “you are wasting away! ” “Where did you go!? ” Etc etc. I’ve had people wave cake in my face while I was eating a cucumber during an office “birthday party”. just know your truth and focus on that! Don’t lose sight of your goal. You cannot control what people say or do but you can control how you react to it and your attitude. This lifestyle change begins with you my friend. Best of luck and hang in there, it IS WORTH IT! Know that you are not alone, nearly every single one of us if not all, have experienced this. People feel the need to comment on other people’s bodies for some reason. Keep your head up high and if you want to respond at all just keep it short and sweet and say, “my doctor thinks I’m doing great! ” Smile and keep it movin!  
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@chuchuah @trudale Leary well said  
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After losing 40 lbs over the past several months, I am now 4 lbs from my goal, and a friend said to me the other day, “Yeah, you look good, but this diet is not sustainable, and you’ll just end up gaining it all back. ” Wow, thanks for the support and vote of confidence.  
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Congratulations for being so close to goal. There are so many people who have kept their weight off. I'm on my 4th year in maintenance and actually below my original goal. And it doesn't have to be sustainable because we don't stay on phase 1 forever.  
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I recently gained 30 pounds and all I’ve heard is. you looked sick  you lost to much weight I’m back on and second guessing if I should go down that far but I felt my best at that weight. It’s hard to hear a whole table of people tell me how bad I looked
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@kemppe do what is best for you. No one else’s opinion matters.  
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Better than when people tell you to keep going - but you are already at goal :)
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Nice! It's like when people comment that I look tired and I think to myself, "Really? I'm actually well-rested and feeling good. " Oh well.  
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@leann or ask you (at your low weight) when your baby is due.  
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