Follow people who are doing what you want to do, Have someone else take photos of you and take a good look at them. And track all your food as your eating it now, see how many calories and fats you are eating for yourself staring at you on paper. You can do it - make small changes, gradual - don’t change your life in an instant - Ease into it if you need to, once you start to see your efforts take effect - you will crave the results and push harder